Holiday Family Feud:
5 Tips to Avoid the Family Holiday Brawl
SAVE ME FROM MY FAMILY! Are you already in meltdown mode anticipating the ?annual family holiday brawl??
There?s no need to hide under the covers until January 2nd, you CAN not only SURVIVE your family, you can actually IMPROVE your family relationships over the holidays! Here are five tips to help you prevent family feuds and up the family holiday fun!
Five Tips :
1. Keep the family out of your ?snuggie?!
Snuggies are good for one or two people, but keep the entire family OUT! Like too much turkey, too much togetherness can make you sick! Being thrown together into one house 24/7 for days can send stress levels soaring! Make a list of all possible soothing and calming self care activities you can do. Focus on eating, sleeping, exercising normally, and drink plenty of water. Do whatever it takes to keep your emotional and physical balance.
Plan how much time you want to be with the family, and make sure you have an ?escape plan?.
2. Stop trying to create ?stepford kids? and the fake house!
Stop trying to turn your home and family into a Norman Rockwell painting.
If you are trying to create a spotless home and turn your kids into perfectly behaved wax figures who don?t speak, you are headed for a holiday crash!
Write calming ?coping cards? of self talk statements that will help you let go of the need to be perfect. Read them when you feel stressed. Such as: ?We are a good enough just the way we are.?
3. Chia pets, fruitcake doorstops, and last year?s turkey: What NOT to give!
Yes you should gifts to your family, but the invisible kind! Focus on APPRECIATION and what you can GIVE not, what you can GET. Show your family members appreciation in some ?non material? ways.
Give FIVE gifts a day over the holidays: hugs, kisses, compliments, secret surprises, and pitching in without being asked.
4. Be a wise man not a Trojan horse!
The wise men knew what they were doing with those gifts of gold, frankincense and Mir! Don?t pull up to grandma?s house like a ?Trojan horse? ready for battle! Stop being a scrooge and get rid of the old grudges!
The best three gifts: ?I?m sorry?, ?I forgive you?, and a big hug!
5. Stay out of the antique china closet!
Bringing out old hurts with the antique china just as the holiday dinner is being served is not a wise move! Revisiting old arguments with family members at this time of year doesn?t necessarily bring resolution and healing.
Save discussion of old hurts for after the holidays.
So bring on the burnt turkey, dust bunnies, and screaming kids! Remember, it?s the precious love you share we should be thankful for! So make this special time of year more than a season of food, drink, shopping, and impressing others! Make it a season of love, appreciation, and respect!
Source: http://www.lovetalkblog.com/2012/12/11/save-mr-from-the-holiday-family-brawl/
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